Holding onto regret and hurt killed several years of my life. While everyone else was moving forward, I was stuck. The idea that we’re supposed to erase pain in order to be virtuous has always felt off to me. True forgiveness, as you point out, is about choosing peace over punishment. Not about denying what happened, but choosing not to be defined by it anymore.
Anger or revenge is like holding a hot ember in your fist to throw at the person who offended you. You may hit or miss the other person, but you will burn your hand for sure.
Yep, forgiveness, letting go, a healing that occurs within consciousness for the fortunate. 🙏🏽☮️. And LOL regarding "no problem" confusing the elderly—that was me when I returned to the US a few years back and first began to hear this expression. At first, I thought maybe I was doing something politically incorrect when I got the "no problem" response. I still can't get myself to use this expression, unless I am not feeling very welcoming.
Holding onto regret and hurt killed several years of my life. While everyone else was moving forward, I was stuck. The idea that we’re supposed to erase pain in order to be virtuous has always felt off to me. True forgiveness, as you point out, is about choosing peace over punishment. Not about denying what happened, but choosing not to be defined by it anymore.
I hope you had a good weekend, Nick.
Happy New week, friend.
Anger or revenge is like holding a hot ember in your fist to throw at the person who offended you. You may hit or miss the other person, but you will burn your hand for sure.
That is a very good way to think of it.
Yep, forgiveness, letting go, a healing that occurs within consciousness for the fortunate. 🙏🏽☮️. And LOL regarding "no problem" confusing the elderly—that was me when I returned to the US a few years back and first began to hear this expression. At first, I thought maybe I was doing something politically incorrect when I got the "no problem" response. I still can't get myself to use this expression, unless I am not feeling very welcoming.
Ditto if they are not repentant.