Centering the aftertaste of the conversation. If it leaves you feeling grounded or understood, it probably had merit. If it leaves you jittery and dramatic, it was likely just theatre.
Many of my principles are based on how effective a strategy is. My take on prejudice, for example, is that it is self-defeating, literally makes your position weaker.
Sometimes, ‘talking about people’ is how we process injustice.
However, that line between venting and toxicity is key.
I’ve started asking myself, ‘Is this conversation useful or just dramatic?’
Yup, I talk to myself a lot, Nick.
Happy weekend...
I gave you an out to talk about injustice in the article. How to tell the difference? How you expect to feel when you are done:
“I simply cannot believe that politician said X” — Feel seen by the listener. You are not crazy.
“OMG, you’ll never believe what she said!” — Feel the rush of shocking the listener. You live for that rush.
I really like that lens Nick.
Centering the aftertaste of the conversation. If it leaves you feeling grounded or understood, it probably had merit. If it leaves you jittery and dramatic, it was likely just theatre.
You got it!
Many of my principles are based on how effective a strategy is. My take on prejudice, for example, is that it is self-defeating, literally makes your position weaker.
reminds me of the Stoic idea that irrational judgments harm the holder more than the target.
PS I get you everytime Nick.
Have the best week ahead.
Exactly. If someone gets mad at me, and I did nothing wrong, I am at worst puzzled. They are incensed. More harm to them than me.
This is a good perspective but not many take the time to pause which is a big problem Nick.