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Jane Deegan's avatar

My husband met almost 4 decades ago, still together, but there was a connection when we first met - a familiarity in a way.

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Nick Richards's avatar

I felt the same went I met my wife. An instant connection.

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jeanne's avatar

My husband of 47 years is from a fairly, recently Stone-aged Amazon tribe, while I am North American of Scottish decent. We knew each other immediately when we first encountered in this life, while we were both passing through an area where neither of us resided. Years passed. My husband has more patience than I. Marriage requires intentional attention to patiently adapting to change to remain intact.

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Nick Richards's avatar

Exactly right. You can right for each other, but you must work at adapting to get the most out of it.

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Neela 🌶️'s avatar

I love this Nick!

We’re sold the myth of a needle-in-a-haystack soulmate, when in reality we’re swimming in perfectly good needles.

I was lucky to meet my guy early in life. Our goal was to build a life together, and 27 years later, we are doing just that.

I hope you have a good week ahead.

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Jamie Just Writes's avatar

It is easy to feel that lust. It is easy to convince yourself it means ‘soul mate’ potentially. But long lasting always involves compromise and work. Some things are worth working at.

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Nick Richards's avatar

And that work can build something beautiful and unique. And you look at your partner and realize you did that together.

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Strawbridge's avatar

Agreed with the core of what you’re saying here.

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Novaheart's avatar

I believe Soulmates are made.

I really liked Plato's Symposium

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Nick Richards's avatar

My title is hyperbole. Soulmates happen, but no one has ever checked out the entire 4 billion possible matches.

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Novaheart's avatar

I got the hyperbole but I like to think we have a hand in making those connections special. I really like the Chinese theory of the red string. Or Plato's theory of the fours arms and four legs and split in half

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