I love the grace in this. And I wonder if part of the challenge is that online, the “audience” feels so much bigger and more anonymous that people forget they’re actually speaking to someone.
This is true. I do not waste my time critiquing people, instead I compliment people, re-stack their notes, give hearts and encouragement. That is way more fun.
Plus when others are mean to me I take no stock in it. They do not matter in my life. Only those closest to me have opinions that hold value. It is true an asshole could be going through something but they can also just be an asshole. I do not engage. I disengage.
I do have empathy for those going through things but I disagree they get a license to be a dick.
I hear you. I don’t think anyone gets a license to be mean, in the same sense that no one gets a license to steal bread.
But the woman who steals a loaf of bread for her starving children, that’s what I meant. We may not license her stealing, but we understand where it came from.
So you can empathize with the person who does something mean without excusing the meanness. It just means they are not habitually mean, just this one time because of what they are going through. Doesn’t excuse the meanness, but at least you understand where it came from.
Speaking of stealing bread I made a philosophical board game called “Bread Dead Redemption” that tackled the very ethics of doing this in various scenarios.
I love the grace in this. And I wonder if part of the challenge is that online, the “audience” feels so much bigger and more anonymous that people forget they’re actually speaking to someone.
Happy Sunday evening Nick....
Never accept criticism from anyone you wouldn’t go to for advice.
This is true. I do not waste my time critiquing people, instead I compliment people, re-stack their notes, give hearts and encouragement. That is way more fun.
Plus when others are mean to me I take no stock in it. They do not matter in my life. Only those closest to me have opinions that hold value. It is true an asshole could be going through something but they can also just be an asshole. I do not engage. I disengage.
I do have empathy for those going through things but I disagree they get a license to be a dick.
I hear you. I don’t think anyone gets a license to be mean, in the same sense that no one gets a license to steal bread.
But the woman who steals a loaf of bread for her starving children, that’s what I meant. We may not license her stealing, but we understand where it came from.
So you can empathize with the person who does something mean without excusing the meanness. It just means they are not habitually mean, just this one time because of what they are going through. Doesn’t excuse the meanness, but at least you understand where it came from.
Yes I get that.
Speaking of stealing bread I made a philosophical board game called “Bread Dead Redemption” that tackled the very ethics of doing this in various scenarios.
Sounds interesting
You even get to play as different philosophers